Everyone has at least one friend whom they consider to be an
introvert. They’re the ones who never want to “go out,” often keep to
themselves, and are just as happy to spend a Friday night relaxing at
home with a good book rather than honed in on the bar. Because they more
often than not decline invitations to big parties, or don’t have dozens
and dozens of friends, you might have made some assumptions about your
friends that simply aren’t true.
1. Introverts are shy
Being introverted and being shy are not one and the same. Introverted
people simply don’t “get their kicks” from interacting with everyone
they meet. Introverts don’t want to just meet people; they want to meet
the
right people.
2. Introverts aren’t outgoing
Introverts can be very outgoing, given the right circumstances. They
might not be the life of the party, but they don’t want to be. Put an
introvert in a group of new people who all have common interests, and
you might not be able to get him to leave.
3. Introverts hate parties
Introverts don’t hate parties; they hate typical parties. They have
no interest in going out to a packed bar that is so loud you can’t even
talk to the people you came with. They would much rather get together
with the same friends at one of their homes, listen to music at a normal
level, watch some TV or play some games, and spend the night actually
interacting with each other in a meaningful way.
4. Introverts don’t like people
Let’s get this straight: introverts don’t like
some people. But doesn’t everyone dislike
some
people? Introverts might be best friends with a person when they’re in
one-on-one situations, but hate doing some activities with that same
person and his “other” group of friends if it means doing something he
or she doesn’t want to do.
5. Introverts hate meeting new people
This doesn’t mean that introverts would rather shut themselves in and
never meet anyone new. They just have different criteria for keeping
people around. Extroverts are generally happy meeting new people all the
time, regardless of whether or not they’ll ever cross paths again.
Introverts want to meet people with the understanding that a bond will
be forged that will be important enough to keep up in the future.
6. Introverts are boring
This can’t be further from the truth. Introverts are incredibly
interesting, which is why they usually can’t be bothered with talking
about the weather in an elevator. While others are happy to have the
typical “So how about those Yankees” conversation with perfect
strangers, introverts are usually lost in their thoughts about the
universe, the state of humanity, or the book they’re currently reading.
7. Introverts aren’t friendly
Introverts might be brief during small-talk situations, but that’s
because they usually have other things on their minds (see above). In
fact, if an introverted person takes the time to have a give-and-take
with you about the news, consider it a compliment. Introverts know that
extroverts thrive on communicating with others, so for them to break
their own mold for your sake shows how friendly they really are.
8. Introverts hate talking
Introverts don’t hate talking; they just love listening. While
extroverts need to have their voices heard, introverts need to hear what
others have to say. Sometimes their quietness is mistaken for rudeness,
which, like the above section, is a complete misunderstanding.
Introverts often want to learn as much as possible about everything in
the world, including other people. What better way is there to do so
than remain quiet and listen to what others have to say?
9. Introverts are unhappy
Just because they don’t outwardly show it doesn’t mean introverts are
generally unhappy. Introverts simply find happiness in other ways, and
others just have to know how to see it. If an introvert is neck-deep in a
conversation, or completely engaged in their current activity, you can
assume they are as content as can be.
10. Introverts want and need to change
Perhaps the biggest misconception modern society has about introverts
is that they all secretly wish they could have the big-shot,
life-of-the-party personality that makes rock stars and athletes famous.
Introverts are more interested in content than surface appeal, and
their own personality is no different. They’re happy with who they are,
and also happy with who you are. Introverts know never to judge a book
by its cover, and they hope that others will do the same with them.
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